Best Gift for Your Daughter

Best Gift for Your Daughter: Non-Fear


"There are three kinds of gifts. The first is the gift of material resources. The second is the gift of know-how. The third, the highest kind of gift, is the gift of non-fear."

~ Thich Nhat Hanh, The Heart of Understanding

In the midst of Holiday consumption and the fear that we're somehow falling short in getting enough, being enough or doing enough (which, unfortunately, now begins as early as Thanksgiving Day - a day meant to be reserved for "gratitude"), let's not forget to remember that the highest kind of gift (and best gift for your daughter) is non-material. 

Why Non-Fear is the Best Gift for Your Daughter

Now more than ever, the world needs strong & inspired girls choosing love over fear. And we've got a lot we're up against... just tune into the latest "reality" show, take a stroll down the aisles at a girl's clothing store, or pick up the latest edition of a teen magazine and you'll get a taste of what girls are up against every day. 

As young girls we have a natural sense of ease about us. We feel free to be who we are without apologies. We radiate love. As we grow, our culture can alter our perception of ourselves and dim our inner light. A major contributor to this change is the thoughtless or unconscious words and messages around us.

From "wink wink" and "eye candy" slogans emblazoned across Abercrombie & Fitch thongs to in-your-face advertising billboards portraying young women in compromising positions, the messages girls get about their bodies, sexuality, and about each other are at best harmful and degrading.

Much of the content on TV and the Internet are negative self-messages aimed at convincing us to consume more, compete with our friends, doubt our bodies and find happiness in things rather than in ourselves. Many of our limiting thought patterns can be attributed to unconsciously adopting negative societal beliefs at certain pivotal moments during childhood.

Psychologists say that we're born with only two fears: falling and loud noises. This means that every other fear is LEARNED. So, if we want to un-learn this fear and move back to the love we knew as little girls, the first step is to understand the fear-based illusions we've learned from the outside world.

Luckily, love is internal and always available, we just have to choose to believe in it again. And we need to collectively practice more love – gratitude, journaling, exercise, meditation and random acts of kindness all help.

But what if we co-create a world where we aren’t bombarded by confusing, fear-based messages? A world where we turn off our phones and TV to have deep conversations from our heart? It's possible.

ADTC is a company inspired by & created for strong girls. 

At American Dance Training Camps, girls have a unique opportunity to shed some of this unnecessary psychological "weight" they've accumulated from living in our harsh world. At ADTC, girls find a place where they aren't bombarded by media images that tell them to be skinnier, wear makeup, and dress for boys. ADTC is a tight-knit, all-girl community where girls feel safe to reconnect with the authentic "selves" so many have difficulty holding on to during the school year.

At ADTC, our summer team is trained to empower girls - to embody, model & teach our sixteen character values, or "manifesto in action." These values provide support as girls become critical thinkers & leaders - as they create a better world for one another. Learn more about our mission & manifesto here!

ADTC Movement Manifesto 

We believe that summer is a time of miracles, and we define "miracle" as a shift in perception from fear to love. A miracle can come when you're one with a movement, the music, or your new friends. But no matter if it comes in a smile, a performance or a kayak, when you feel it, you just know. We think girls need more love - more miracles. Together, let's help our girls shed some of this unnecessary psychological "weight" so we can be liberated from our fears and get a better picture of our "selves."

May your Holiday be merry, bright & full of love ("fear-free")!


Lindsey Fadner (ADTC Founder)


P.S. Early Bird Rates Through April 20th!

Studies show that a key to happiness is having something to look forward you can brighten your daughter's school year as she gets excited for camp. This is your best summer rate. Hurry - ADTC Early Bird registration ends April 20, 2017!

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About the Author:

In 2003, at the age of 24, Lindsey Fadner organized a 3 week overnight camp in Stratton, VT for students at her CT dance school. That pioneering venture evolved into American Dance Training Camps, the world's premier dance camps company. Still excited about it after all these years, Lindsey continues to serve as ADTC's spiritual leader, and CEO of all things relating to girls' self-esteem. Always on the hunt for new and interesting places to dance, her favorite camp continues to be the next one she's starting. Questions? Contact her anytime at!